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By Marta Vago on April 2, 2018

Believing in yourself is acknowledging what you already are, what you already have and what you’ve already done. In other words, it’s believing in everything you have become and accomplished up to this point in your life: be it a degree, specialized skill, title or position, or money acquired through work and prudent investments.


Not believing in yourself makes sense only if what you’re trying to believe isn’t real, isn’t true or there is little or nothing to support it. However, it is well to remember that what is always real and true about you are your knowledge, your experience and everything you have achieved. They are also the things no one can take away from you. For example: someone conceivably could take away your money, but doing so would never negate the fact that you had earned it through what you know and what you do.


Believing in yourself also means believing in your own value. Believing in your own value is another way of saying you believe that who you are and what you do is worth something: worth something to you and worth something to others.


Some people have the tendency to give everything away. They give away their ideas, they give away their time, they give away their energy – and leave little for themselves. It makes one wonder if the reason they give everything away is because they don’t believe that what they’re giving away is worth much. But, if it isn’t worth much to them, why should it be worth much to someone else?


Not giving everything away does not mean that you become a stingy person. All it means is that you become more discriminating about whom you give of yourself to. Ultimately, believing in your own value means that you give of yourself to yourself first, because who you are and what you do is worth so much that you deserve to get first crack at it.